“Hi James, I really like your profile and you made me laugh with your comment about the kind of girls you usually meet.I’m not too into the tangoed look myself, but I do usually have a tan in the summer from being out in the field with my horse.You mentioned that you’re learning to ride, have you had many lessons?x Suzie” A message like the one above shows that you have taken the time to read the person’s profile and are not just contacted hundreds of people with the same message.
Learn a little something about the person you’re messaging, and reference that in your communiqué.
You might as well find out right away if your senses of humor* line up.*Bonus advice: Please don't just write "I have a good sense of humor" and expect everyone to believe you. It's good to express enthusiasm for shared interests, but don't make them up, and don't be weird about it.
You can only get so excited about both liking pizza. ), is really into the idea that guys' messages to girls' should assume brain-deadness on the part of the recipients: "You need to make it easy for women and help them think to avoid ending up with message abandonment issues," he writes, suggesting that guys send girls messages that ask questions but also partially answer them, so it isn't too hard or whatever. Though much of what you'll find among internet advice on internet dating is bad, some of it is pretty spot-on and helpful.
It's presumptuous to list a bunch of unrequested information about yourself in your message, because doing so assumes that this person already thinks of you as a candidate.
Instead, as with good tip #5, use the message to ask about him/her.