I wanted to share an email I got from someone recently.
I’m sharing it because I know that the situation this guy is in may be something you could encounter in the future or may be dealing with right now. Read this guy’s email because I know you will learn something from his situation as well as my advice for him.
” And you’re right, dating isn’t a game – it’s a dance.
Even though I've never met Antoinette, my guess is that she thinks Mike is a nice guy - but that he would be a nightmare to date ... Desperation isn’t pretty, and if you’re the one feeling slightly under pressure it can be hard to know the difference between reasonable pro-activity and sad, demeaning behavior. The first date was terrific and he hasn’t called in four days, so you’re a little bit worried that he isn’t as enthusiastic as you are. The phone rings, it’s him and he says, “What are you doing right now? If you want to be completely honest with the caller you could say, “I don’t accept dinner dates 10 minutes before dinner,” but the kinder, less aggressive way to teach this person that you have too much of a life to be available at the drop of a hat is to say, “I’m busy tonight, but let’s set something up for this weekend.” If you choose to answer this call and say, “Sure, I’m free. You’re teaching this new person how you like to dance by the treatment you accept.Too Eager Before I started talking about the notion of good karma, I mentioned the "red badge of desperation", and described some of the symptoms such as being overly eager, nervous, or in a hurry to go out on a formal date, or asking someone out too often ...so let me now go back and elaborate on those issues, as they are just as important a part of being comfortable with yourself as the "good karma" persona.