As I prepared this elaborate meal, I was nervous and anxious about what my then companion would say.I anticipated a positive reaction that would trigger an even more positive reaction that would eventually lead to us living happily ever after. My companion enjoyed the meal, but shortly after, we parted ways and have never spoken a word to each other since.He is the author of Never Settle for Normal: The Proven Path to Significance and Happiness. I wrote a book all about gender that provides tools for standing up against gender-based oppression (like the things below) and working toward a socially justice society.I witnessed first-hand some very self-destructive relationship behaviors that were inextricable from race, culture, and class identities.
Following is a list of cisgender identity privileges.
One day while I was shopping, I was simultaneously repulsed and amused to find baby onesies that said things like “Ladies Man” and “Lock Up Your Daughters.” Putting aside the obvious gross misogyny, I couldn’t believe how early people jump at the chance to shoehorn their children into heterosexual narratives.
A similar phenomenon occurs whenever baby boys smile at me in the grocery store.
In order for us to truly decolonize our identities, we need to address our bodies and desire as well.
It is not enough to stand against military oppression, but also the oppressions of classism, sexism, shadism or “pigmentation politics” as Diaz termed.