Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.That's not an argument for or against divorce, for or against dating. remembers the conversation she had with her two sons following one of their regular visits with herex-husband.Both boys were brimming with news about Daddy's new friend, Joanne.
But love comes in all forms; just because you haven’t experienced this situation before, doesn’t mean it can’t be a huge success and extremely joyful.We make a beautiful family, and we love each other. Because while dating someone with kids can be amazing in so many ways, don’t ever think it’ll be easy. You wanted to get away for the weekend but you forgot it’s over Mother’s Day because, newsflash, you’re not a mom?But don’t be misled: this is the most challenging thing I have ever done. You should know a few things before you flail carelessly into infatuation like that basejumper guy in the squirrel suit with that awesome song. A parent’s responsibility is to their kids first, always, and that will never change. Be aware your plans will always need to be flexible.The reasonis simple: A child's own identity is very much tied to that of his family.When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.