Current clients – all female – include parole officers, psychotherapists and investment bankers (age range 30-70), who seek her advice on everything from how to spice up their internet profile to how to behave on a first date.Her approach, based on marketing techniques gleaned from years working in big corporations, isn't romantic, but she's convinced it works.OK there is no graceful way to ask that question and the person I am really asking is myself.However, I would greatly appreciate some perspectives.In all my years of dating, I have seen my fair share of scenarios: He's ready to get serious and I'm not. But sometimes two people get lucky and find themselves on the same page. Let me rephrase that; it's not luck, it's timing, along with knowing yourself and knowing your partner. Unfortunately, you can't avoid the possibility that your sugar may turn to salt. If you are a mature woman, he is a mature man and the relationship has "permanency potential," then go for it!If you are an older woman trying to finally win at love, it can be tough. Taking a relationship to the second stage takes courage, especially when we have been wounded in the past. Men who have "been around" have their own concerns when it's their second or third time in the game). However, if you have done your homework and really spent time getting to know him, you shouldn't be surprised by his reaction when you tell him how you feel.
Former corporate high-flier Paula Rosdol, a London-based American, specialises in helping women in midlife and beyond relaunch themselves onto the dating scene.
I have been single since my kid was 18 months old (She is now six).
In that time I have been on a few (cringe-worthy) dates but never really pursued dating since I was busy, preoccupied with kid, work and life and frankly a bit shell-shocked and wary from a lifetime of serial monogamy.
You've been married and divorced, or just out there long enough to know the score. That is what you need to communicate to the man in your life (but please be gentle, and don't bring up any old baggage from the last bad relationship).
It might also help to choose a quiet time and place for the discussion, one where the two of you can concentrate on each other.