Especially when you throw asexuality into the equation.
We don’t tend to talk much about actually being in relationships in the ace community.
After our usual good talk on algorithms, correlations, and next steps for growing his team, we started bouncing ideas off each other on how to save money on processing.
Progression = success, standstill is ok for a while, but anything else is deemed to be a sign of a failing relationship. Yeah, if you’re desperately looking for someone to marry and have kids with, then someone saying ‘hey, let’s slow down or take a step back’ might not be exactly what you’re looking for.
It loves its tormented advice columns, its features on how to catch the person of your dreams and keep them too, its endless commentary on just how crucial partnered relationships are to your wellbeing and fulfilment as a person. ) And once we’re in a relationship, it’s all about where you’re going with it.
How your relationships develops in its early stages, how it progresses from one level to the next, how you go from dating to commitment to marriage, from kissing to touching to sex.
Our first kiss was as soft as a breeze, our first night was a sweet dream, our days and nights flowed effortlessly, and months of longing and anticipation became a stream of perfect moments. We had “met” through reading each other’s stories online months earlier, and here we were on our first date at last, and we felt like we’d been lovers for years. We talked, we laughed, we kissed, and we fell more deeply in love each day.
We had that rare-as-hens-teeth experience of the thrill of doing everything for the first time and feeling like we had done it all countless times before. Then reality raised its ugly head, and I flew home.